Socially distant dates can still work. And, side note, they are SUPER AWESOME because there is far less pressure because, hello, please stay 6 ft away from me at all times.
But imagine this: you start talking to a guy online, the conversation is good, you realize you have a few mutual friends and you agree to go out, but then 3 days before your scheduled date a GLOBAL PANDEMIC is declared and your state shuts down. New plan: let's text forever and become pen pals. That was my reality.
After weeks of texting we agreed to meet up and do a little trail walking, allowing us to keep social distance but still kind of hang out. I requested a fountain soda from McDonald's ($1) and we walked. It was fun. Conversation continued to be good and he was funny. Then the date ended. We waved from feet apart, walked separately to our cars and drove home.
After a meet up there's always the question of when do you message, how long should a person wait between the date and a text. How long should I wait between when he messages and when I message back. I want him to know I'm interested but don't want to be desperate. I want to go after what I want and I don't want to seem needy. So.many.things.to.consider. Ultimately, I usually the the guy follow up. AND HE DID. We messaged regularly following our meet. In the days that followed the messages generally got fewer and fewer until there were none, leaving me really confused. Sometimes when this happens, I send a message to make sure it's not on my end. I let him know that I had a good time and would welcome another socially distant date. You know what he sent back? NOTHING. CRICKETS.
What happened between Monday - Friday? I may never get to know...and I want to be okay with that, but I'm not...like how hard is it to say literally anything?!
During one of our conversations he thought it was interesting that we had mutual friends who knew we were both single but never suggested that we meet up. He wondered if they were protecting me from him...maybe they were. Just maybe they were.
NEXT.
